Welcome to my life!

Welcome back to my ongoing journey as a unicorn in the swinging lifestyle.  If you are a new reader...welcome, and I hope you enjoy sharing my erotic times.  If you have read my previous books then I hope this one lives up to your expectations.

In my last book, Diary of a Unicorn: Reawakened I had come out of a short intermission period and got right back into the "swing of things"...so to speak.  We caught up with a lot of reoccurring friends/characters in my life and introduced quite a few more.  Some became new friends, and some were just bit players in my diary.

A few new things have happened since the last book.  My free website is up and thriving.  The web address is www.diaryofaunicorn.com.  This has everything from pictures (rated G to XXX), information on my books, my blog, sex and dating sites I belong to and how to find me, my email address which is tracy@diaryofaunicorn.com, and other pieces which are still in the works.  Take a look at it and see what you think.  I try to update the pictures as I can, but many people don't like to have their picture taken, even with their faces screened out.

My blog has really taken off.  You can read it on my website or just go to http://adiaryofaunicorn.blogspot.com/ to read my posts.  I try to write every couple of days, sometimes include a picture, and you will recognize some of these stories from the blog.  Although the blog entries are short, just teasers of the tales that will be in the book.  Just something to keep readers interested in the meantime.  Please feel free to make comments on the entries as that is something that people seem hesitant to do, and I would love to hear more about what you think of my writing and experiences.

You can also follow me on Twitter at DiaryUnicorn and on Instagram at TracyUnicornDiary.  I would love to hear your feedback and gather new followers.  I like to post funny and sexy things for my followers to enjoy.  And of course you can still find me on Facebook at https://facebook.com/diaryofaunicorn. 

I respond to all emails and comments from everyone, so don't be shy.  Check out the sites, email me, make comments, tweet me...I follow it all and love every minute of it.  I know there are more like me and love to connect with other unicorns or swingers who just like to share stories of their own lifestyle.

Previously I mentioned some ongoing dental work which has turned into a bit of a nightmare.  Sometimes during this book I have to take short breaks as I recover from one procedure or another, but that doesn't get me down.  I will tell you, though, that the sex just gets hotter the further into the book you get.

One other thing I should mention, and this is something I have never publicly put into print, but I am bipolar.  I don't have the typical bipolar with manic highs.  My high periods are just times of extreme focus, productivity, and concentration, but my down cycles are truly debilitating.  Luckily throughout this book I was on an up cycle, so I didn't have to deal with that along with all the dental work.  I just thought I should share that with my readers so you will know more of me as a person.

I ended the last book with a swinger's party and an after-party of six where we fucked ourselves out, so let's get this one started a little slower and introduce a few new characters and friends to go along with the ones you already know.  Being a swinger, even a bisexual unicorn, can be hard and frustrating.  You will see just how difficult and annoying it can be with the number of people I have who cancel on me or just disappear.  But there are just as many people who follow through, and many have become my friends.  I hope you make friends like mine and have a great time enjoying the lifestyle.  Happy Swinging!

Have a sexy day!

XoXo

Tracy

Play Date with a BBC - excerpt from my new book

I never really mention race in my books because for me it's all about the person, not their race that turns me on.  Curtis and I had played once before, years ago, but he didn't think I was into black guys, so he asked me about it.  This is one of the few sessions in any of my books where I mention race.

Curtis and I went to a hotel and this was purely a session of hot fucking and sucking.  We had decided to do a hot broadcast on my AFF account.  A hot broadcast is a live streaming video of your camera, so I brought my laptop along.  While people can watch and comment on a hot broadcast, it can't be downloaded or saved, even by the people streaming it.  It can be good if you want to put yourself out there but not have files that can be downloaded floating around.

We turned on the computer, set up the broadcast, and got undressed.  There wasn't really any kissing or foreplay; we just got down to business.  We started off with him standing and me sucking his very thick, very long, very hard dick.  Because of his size I do have trouble getting much of him in my mouth.  It's just not physically possible for me to open my mouth any wider.  We did this for a while and checked the broadcast.  We were up to about 500-600 viewers which is a pretty good amount for a Monday lunchtime gig.  The viewers were making comments and requests of things they wanted us to do, but it's hard to really focus on fucking while you are reading comments.  That's just one of the reasons I could never be a woman who does camera sex for money.  I guess I'm not that good at multi-tasking during sex, unless it's with multiple partners...lol.

We moved to the bed where I could try a different angle, and despite his size, I was really enjoying myself.  Curtis seemed to be enjoying himself, too.  He used my camera on my phone to take some pictures and a video of me blowing him.  Putting down the phone he flipped me over onto my back, pushing my legs up near his shoulders.  He put on a condom and had to go slowly because of his size.  He commented that I am small and tight, but that may just be because of his size.  I don't think I'm big or stretched out by any means, but I think he would consider most women small and tight.  We fucked this way for a while, then I got on top and rode him.  Holding my hips tightly he thrust deeper until he came.

We took a break, and I smoked a cigarette.  I kept the camera going and gave the viewers a bit of a show playing with my tits and pussy.  We could hear the comments coming in and the they wanted wanted him to fuck my ass (not happening), wanted reverse cowgirl, wanted me to lick his ass (he didn't seem interested in that.)  They loved the contrast of his BBC with my white pussy and ass.

Curtis got hard again, so I started giving him another blowjob.  This time Curtis moved the camera closer so it was focused on my face and his cock.  While keeping the camera close he moved me back onto my stomach and entered me from behind, pulling my hair back to hold me in place while slapping my ass.  He reached down to fondle my pussy and clit and immediately made me come.

I switched to reverse cowgirl so the viewers could get a good view of him going in and out of me from a different perspective.  The number of viewers continued to increase.  We moved the camera to his chest (not an easy thing to do) so the people could get a very close view of his big cock going deep into my wet and juicy pussy.

After a couple of hours, we were both tired and satisfied.  It was a fun afternoon.  Later that afternoon I had a couple dozen emails from people who had watched the broadcast, and the video and picture started trending as soon as I uploaded them.  Here are a few samples of the emails I got when I returned home.

1.  I know you hear this all the time but you look amazingly awesome! I just had to stop by and let you know. Hot cam!

2.  mmmmm,very hot cam-play!!  hi from germany :o)  pls play c2cum wirh my big cock ,o)

3.  Hi I have been watching some of your videos and first saw you live I'm sure you would be a lot of fun. too bad your so far away. you certainly have a beautiful sexy body. please keep posting.

4.  Hello.  Thanks for sharing yourself online. Your pics and videos are very mmmmm stimulation. You are very pretty and sexy. I enjoyed reading yor blogs and will most likely read the digital book in the near future. I loved seeing you live on cam today. Wow,,,,you are so very sexy. Looks like you are in a hotel....traveling? If so, where are you?

5.  Hi Unicorn., I might be unable to meet you but reading about your exploits would be an interesting substitution. 

6.  Saw you on cam. Nice! Ever get to Florida? Love to host you. Do you have YIM? 

7.  hello my angel, I'm jealous, wanted to be with you in his place, kisses

8.  Saw your videos and pictures.  Very sexy indeed.  Keep it up!

9.  How can I get your books?

10.            I want more and maybe even participate with the cam.  send invitation of friendship.  very, very good your videos, I see that has done everything in bed

All in all it was a very fun afternoon diversion.  Not sure when I will get to see Curtis again, but I am looking forward to it, and this time it won't be a few years away.

Have a sexy day!
XoXo
Tracy

My Recent Masturbation Session

Since my last post was about my thoughts on masturbation, I figured I would include one on what it is like for me sometimes when I masturbate.  This is a typical recent example.  Hope it makes you horny.  :)

After instant message exchange with one of my friends, I was very turned on.  My breasts, especially my nipples, are one of my hottest spots for me.  My nipples were already so hard, I had to take off my clothes and lie back on the bed to just massage and squeeze them.

For the record, I do like porn.  I like all types of video porn - men, women, groups - but I probably watch more girl on girl porn than anything.  So I found a nice video of two women online and rubbed my tits while watching the women on screen doing the same thing.  When one of the women moved down to lick the other one's pussy, I lowered one hand to my own.  I was wet, and my clit was so sensitive.  I continued this way with one hand on my breast and one stroking my pussy for a while.  I really can almost come from having my nipples played with.

I decided to get out one of my vibrators.  This one is pink and a little flexible, about 7" long with just a little curve in it.  I started with a low setting, just lightly stroking all around my clit with the soft buzzing, teasing myself.  Every time the vibrator would rub over me while I pinched my nipple I could feel the orgasm building.  On the computer, the women were now on top of each other, with their legs intertwined, grinding their clits against one another.  One of my favorite things.

Soon I felt the vibrator dipping further and further into my pussy.  I enjoy toys of all kinds, whether by myself or with others.  This time I decided to stay on my back and use it to fuck myself slowly, rubbing it against my clit, sliding it against my g-spot, then burying it deep inside me.  My hips were moving with the rhythm, and I closed my eyes to concentrate on the sensations.  I don't always need to be moving quickly, and this was one of those times where I just continued to stroke and squeeze until I finally gave in to a really good orgasm...the kind where you can feel the orgasm in your clit and inside your pussy at the same time.  Mmmmm.

I can have multiple orgasms sometimes, and sometimes I am completely satisfied with one.  Masturbating alone and/or with a toy is just a purely self-indulgent time.  You aren't thinking of pleasing someone else and can focus entirely on what you are feeling.  But it is only one part of a fulfilling sexual lifestyle for me.  I do enjoy being with others more because I like to give as much as I like to receive.  However, there is nothing wrong with masturbating as often as you want.  And I do believe that it is true that the more times you have sexual experiences, the more often you want them.

When I was finished I took a couple of licks of my juices from the vibrator.  I actually like the way I taste.  I encourage all women and men to taste their own come.  You may be squeamish at first, but it's yet another sense aroused and you get to know yourself just a little better.  Now it was time for sleep.

Have a sexy day!

XoXo

Tracy

A Unicorn's Thoughts On Masturbation

I love to masturbate, alone or with others.  Whether you are in a relationship or not, to me masturbation is still something to be enjoyed, not something to be hidden away from your partner.  This topic is probably easier for men than for women.  Everyone jokes about men constantly masturbating from an early age.  I also started masturbating when I was young, probably around the age of ten.  I had nobody to talk to about it, and it's really the only time in my sexual life that I felt that I was doing something "dirty."  My masturbation was furtive and hidden and never spoken about with anyone.  I didn't really touch myself.  Instead I had a tendency to read my parents' hidden porn books while straddling something and rubbing myself against it...such as a pillow or stuffed animal.

Within a few years, though, I felt much more comfortable with my body and sexuality and realized that there was nothing wrong with what I was doing.  In fact, you should feel as comfortable lavishing yourself with loving attention as you would a partner.

I do know some women have some concerns about masturbation, both their own and their partner's.  Here are my thoughts.  Women, you need to feel comfortable with your body, if you don't already.  And I mean comfortable in all aspects of the word.  Learn how to touch yourself and what things you like.  Take a look at yourself.  I mean that literally.  Mirrors can be a pain in the ass, but if you use your camera on your phone, you can take some close up shots to really get a good view and then delete them if they make you uncomfortable.  As a woman who enjoys women and men, I can tell you that all pussies look different, just as penises look different.  Some women have larger lips (like me), some have smaller.  The colors and shading varies.  Finding your clit and what it looks like is also highly recommended.  That goes for men as well as women.  Some men really do not know how to thoroughly enjoy a woman's pussy or find their way around easily.

Take the time to use your fingers to explore the outside.  Shaving or not shaving is your own personal preference, and I'm not going to suggest that either is better.  Does it feel good to lightly rub your lips?  How about your clit?  Clits can be larger or smaller, but they all have the capacity for incredible stimulation.  Do you like your clit rubbed softly or stroked more firmly?  Do you like to have your clit tapped with your fingers (a personal favorite of mine)? 

Try inserting a finger and exploring your inner recesses.  You can learn to use your muscles inside your vagina to clamp down a bit with practice.  That can feel good for you and your partner.  Can you find your g-spot?  I'm not going to go into details on how to find it because there are entire books written on this.  So if you have questions about your g-spot, do a little research online.

If you are feeling a little more adventurous, don't stop with your vagina.  Spend a little time focusing on your anus.  For many this may seem a taboo subject.  But just think about it.  Touch it lightly on the outside, use a little lubrication if it makes you feel better.  And on the topic of lubrication, don't ever, ever use Vaseline or lotion.  Those are very bad, not meant for internal use, and can cause infections.  I recommend a water-based lubricant as opposed to a silicone based.  That's my preference.

Now back to the anus.  There are so many nerve endings at the opening of the anus.  I guess this part could apply to men, too.  It's very common to enjoy anal play.  Just touch around a bit, maybe insert a finger just a little to see how it feels.  If you are a man, this does NOT mean you are gay.  So many guys have this fear.  It just means that it feels good.  End of story.  If you are enjoying it, feel free to insert your fingers further and explore a little more.  If you learn what you enjoy by yourself, it will be much easier to communicate these things to your partner.  As for me, I've explored the anal side.  As the receiver, I enjoy a little ass play, but I don't enjoy penetration.  Just not something that turns me on.  As the giver, I definitely enjoy providing whatever my partner wants (man or woman) from fingering, tonguing, or full penetration with a toy or strap-on.  As a reminder, though, when going from vagina to ass or vice versa, be sure to clean your hands or toys so you don't get an infection.

Speaking of toys, as you are getting to know yourself better through masturbation, I suggest you purchase a few toys.  I like toys of all kinds, but in this chapter I'm really going to just talk about vibrators.  You don't have to go to a sex store as there are many online retailers with a much bigger selection.  There are way too many varieties to get into here, but just start with something simple, just a plain vibrator.  I recommend one that has a slight flexible curve to it in whatever size you are comfortable with.

Use the vibrator along with your fingers.  Use it to stimulate your clit.  Maybe start at a low speed then increase as your arousal increases.  If you enjoy that, start with some penetration.  It doesn't have to be deep.  Try different things to see what you like.  For me I am capable of having clitoral orgasms, g-spot orgasms, and vaginal orgasms.  Sometimes just one, sometimes all of them depending on the stimulation.  By exploring you will find out things you like in the privacy of your own space.

Once you feel comfortable with your body, I suggest you start exploring masturbation with your partner.  Don't be afraid to get up close and personal.  It can be far more intimate than actual intercourse.  The end result of lovemaking or fucking doesn't have to be penetration, intercourse, or even orgasm sometimes.  Fun for the sake of fun is good.

And don't be concerned if you or your partner masturbate without the other one around.  It doesn't mean they aren't interested in you.  I believe it should just be a part of your sexual repertoire.

My First Threesome

I always knew that I was attracted to both men and women.  Even coming from a small, conservative town it never made me feel odd or uncomfortable.  But my first experiences, starting at around 16, were with men.  So how do you find yourself involved in any group activities at such a young age?  This is how it started with me.

My boyfriend Shane at that time had a lot of older male friends, many of them firefighters or police officers.  He was the "unofficial" photographer for them so he spent a lot of time with them, and so did I.  One afternoon we were at one of his friend's house, just hanging out.  This guy named Brian was probably in his late 20s.  Being in our late teens, my boyfriend and I were always horny.  Brian was in the kitchen for a while, and Shane and I were making out on the couch when Brian walked back in.  We didn't notice him at first so I don't know how long he was watching us.  We had our clothes on, but it was getting pretty heated.

When I happened to open my eyes, I saw Brian watching us over Shane's shoulder.  Knowing that he was just standing there looking turned me on even more.  That was the beginning of my exhibitionistic side.  I became more daring, reaching down to stroke Shane's cock through his jeans.  I'm not sure if Shane just sensed something or what, but he turned his head and saw his friend.  He was just leaning against the door rubbing his own dick through his clothes.  I didn't really give it any conscious thought.  I just stood up and took off my clothes.

The boy and the man looked at me in awe, not because I was model beautiful, but because they were so turned on by the ease with which I transitioned into a fully sexual woman, confident in my own skin.  I looked at Shane, and he shook his head yes so I went over to Brian.  Sliding against him, I moved his hand to my ass, wrapped my arms around his neck, and brought his face down to kiss me.  We just stood there for a while.  None of us was probably sure what was happening.  But it certainly didn't feel wrong, at least not to me.

Things then moved quickly.  While standing with Brian and helping him remove his clothes, I looked back to see Shane getting undressed.  I caressed Brian's chest, his nipples, his ass.  I cupped his balls and wrapped my fist around his cock, feeling how hard he was.  I dropped to my knees and licked his shaft from base to tip, taking him deep into my mouth and sucking.  He let out a groan.  This continued for a while, and when I stood up I turned to see Shane lying on the couch masturbating while watching us. 

While I had had a few one one one encounters with boys, this was the first "older" man I was with.  Holding his cock in my hands, I felt powerful and very turned on.  I felt like I figuratively held all of the power in the room.  I was still young and exploring, with my experience coming from boys my own age who were just so happy to have any type of sex that they didn't really know how to express what they wanted.  This was a man with some experience and was happy to tell and show me how he liked to be touched and licked and stroked and sucked.  I had no idea until that point that I could be so aroused knowing someone was watching me.  And seeing Shane stroking his own cock while watching me made me feel even more seductively powerful and aroused.

By unspoken agreement the three of us moved to the bedroom.  It was the first threesome for all of us, so we didn't know what we were "supposed" to do, just what we wanted to do.  I had no experience with homosexual or bisexual men at this time, but they didn't appear to have any interest in each other at all.  That was probably good because I might have freaked out a little at so many new things at one time.  I just knew that I did feel completely comfortable with the two of them.  We kind of eased our way into it with one man on either side of me licking and sucking my tits.  I just laid there for a while and enjoyed the sensations.  One of them moved down to lick my pussy, but I honestly don't remember which one.

What I do know is that when I next opened my eyes, Brian was between my legs with his cock, looking at Shane for permission.  Slowly at first he started fucking me, and it was wonderful feeling the difference between their cocks and their bodies.  Shane was still a lanky teenager, but Brian had a man's body and the confidence to take what he wanted.  It didn't take long for Brian to come, and right after he pulled out Shane slid in.  I had already come once and, between my juices and Brian's, I was dripping.  Apparently watching me being fucked had turned Shane on even more, so he came rather quickly.  My body was humming.

Until this point I didn't know that I could have more than one orgasm at a time.  But with the two of them working on me together, I was in a constant state of stimulation, knowing that the slightest touch could make me come again and again.  I loved the possibilities that now lay before me and wanted to explore more and more.

That was pretty much the extent of it.  The sex was missionary style, and while three people were involved, there wasn't much three-way action going on.  For example, I didn't get fucked while sucking the other's dick.  There was sex and voyeurism and exhibitionism and masturbation.  Not really unexpected behavior for a first time, and I enjoyed it all immensely as did the guys.  And this was the first of many times among the three of us.  But I'm going to save those stories for another book when I write about my first few years learning about my sexual awakening in terms of multiple partners, women and men.  It was never a lifestyle choice or decision for me.  It was just a series of enjoyable experiences that led me to want to experience and experiment more.

A Swingers' Hotel Takeover - Excerpt from my first book

Since my daughter's wedding is just around the corner I haven't been really playing so I thought I would give you an excerpt from my first book.  This was a party I went to on New Year's Eve weekend a while back.  Hope you enjoy!

During the busy holiday season, attending parties and enjoying new and old friends was a nice breather.  Big plans were on the way for New Year’s Eve and that’s where efforts were focused.  A group of us had decided to attend the Virginia Friends Swingers Hotel Takeover New Year’s Eve weekend.  It was going to be Wade and me, Matt and Laura, and their friends Monica and Adam who I had not yet met.

I was really looking forward to this party.  While I had been to numerous hotel parties over the years, this would probably be the largest I’ve ever attended.  It was being held at a hotel in Richmond, Virginia.  Friday night was the pre-party, and Saturday night was the New Year’s Eve party.  I believe there were supposed to be in the neighborhood of 250-300 people attending.

There are a few rules when attending an event such as this.  Only couples and single females are allowed to attend.  No single men for obvious reasons.  And as I have mentioned before, while the couples paid an attendance fee, single females/unicorns were allowed free entry.

Because we made reservations early enough all three couples were able to get three adjoining rooms.  That made things convenient and fun.  When we arrived on Friday afternoon and checked in, the first thing we did was open the connecting doors so we would all have free access.

Matt and Laura quickly introduced us to Monica and Adam, an attractive couple a little younger than me.  Monica was short, had a curvaceous figure with large breasts, beautiful long red hair, and a wicked laugh.  Adam was her opposite, a quiet, handsome man with a beautiful smile.  I knew we would become great friends.

We all went for a late dinner since the party tonight was not providing food.  After dinner Wade and I attended a newcomer’s workshop since he had never been to a party such as this.  There they went over the basic etiquette of swinging.  Wade is also very quiet but in a rather smoldering kind of way.  He really is quite the pretty boy.

The beauty of a hotel takeover party is that the entire hotel is rented out for the event so there aren’t many rules.  Friday night’s party started late and the public areas were mostly limited to the seventh and eighth floors.  After getting dressed to party, the six of us headed to the seventh floor where the food would be set up at midnight.  There were a few playrooms on that floor, but we realized that the real action was happening one floor above us.

When stepping off the eighth floor elevator, the noise and the scene were one of a Bacchanalian debauchery in the earliest stages.  The lighting was dimmed, all doors were opened, and music pervaded the space.  We were like kids in a candy store not knowing where to start.  There was a huge crowd, but it didn’t seem crowded.  We started with a room near the elevator.

The first room we entered was rather tame.  There was music and dancing and a stripper pole erected in the center.  Fueled by a couple of cocktails it wasn’t long before the three of us ladies were on the platform around the pole, dancing and grinding with each other, much to crowd’s enjoyment.  A couple other ladies joined in. 

I was wearing jeans and a flowing top with fuck me heels.  In no time the jeans came off with my top barely covering my ass and thong.  No rules, remember?  We danced for a while, but I have to admit that this was not my first time on a pole, although I’ve never been a stripper.  The top came off next, and I was dancing in only my thong to the enjoyment of the crowd.  I reached for the nearest woman, pulled her close and started kissing her.  She grabbed my ass, and we put on a bit of a show for a minute or two.

I saw my friends heading into the next room.  I wasn’t sure upon entering what this room was.  There were many people standing around, but I couldn’t really see any action.  Matt came and took my hand.  He knew that I am always pretty much up for anything.  In the front of the room was a Sybian mechanical vibrator.  Even with my experience I had never seen one.  It looked like a small saddle with a dildo on top and a control box at the end.  Matt explained that the woman lowered herself onto the vibrator which rotated every which way, up and down, in circles, and had a variety of speeds.  The controls, though, were handled by someone else, in this case by Matt.  It seemed that no one wanted to go first, so of course I jumped right in.  I was already basically naked, so I removed my thong and stood over the machine in just my heels.

Matt carefully put a condom around the dildo, and I lowered myself onto it.  It was a good size, not too large or small, and the front of the saddle did a nice job of riding my clit.  As I got comfortable Matt slowly started the movements.  I could feel the throbbing vibrator inside me start to move, and I rode it like I was riding a bull.  As he saw my pleasure increase Matt decided to take me on a real ride and increased not only the movements but the speed of the vibration.  Fuck!  I gotta get me one of these!  Of course they cost a few thousand dollars so I guess not.  The longer I rode the faster my orgasm was coming, and it was going to be a doozy.  Both my clit and my G-spot were being fully stimulated.  To the crowds clapping and shouting I closed my eyes as the waves almost took me down.  What a trip.  By the time I was done there was a line of women across the room waiting for their turn.

I wondered what interesting treats lie in store in some of the other rooms.  It turns out that the next room we entered was a pussy eating contest for men.  It was fun watching, but I never did learn how they determined a winner.  Was it by which man got which woman off the fastest?  That didn’t seem fair since not all women come at the same rate.  Hmmm.  I guess I would have to find that one out later.

By this time we had kind of all split up to check things out.  I wandered to the next room which was the opposite of the last room…a cock sucking contest.  I thought about entering since I have been told that I have unique talents (which I attribute to my 40 years as a flutist).

I found Wade, and we checked out a few other rooms.  There was a room where a dominant man was teaching specific knot tying for bondage.  Another was set up for foot fetishists.  Down the hall was the swing room.  If you’ve never had sex in a sex swing before, you should try it.  A whole different kind of ride.  A dominatrix stood surveying the domain of her room with a handful of men kneeling in front of her.  It was a carnival of sexual entertainment.  There was no pressure to participate.  You could simply watch and roam.

After the late night/early morning buffet the six of us headed back to our room(s) for some group play.  I had Matt’s cock in my mouth as Adam fucked me from behind, and I looked over to see both Monica and Laura going down on Wade.  In switching it up I really wanted to play with Monica.  She has a body that I love with large tits and generous curves.  I could lie in her arms sucking on her nipples all night.  So soft and such a turn on.  We all took turns with one another, and it was a delightful way to end the day.

The next morning we went for a late breakfast then stopped by a local sex shop to buy a few toys and goodies such as flavored massage oil, some cock rings, and nipple clamps.  Back at the hotel we noticed a large group at the indoor pool.  We wandered in to check out the view since clothing was obviously optional.

Matt and Laura were discussing their most recent trip to a sex resort.  I think they were talking about Hedonism.  I haven’t been to one of these locations, but it is definitely on my bucket list.

The official New Year’s Eve dinner/dance on Saturday night was a dressy affair.  Matt looked handsome in his tuxedo while the other two men were sexy in their suits.  The women stunned in a combination of sex and glamour.  We seated ourselves at a table for ten, and soon a few others joined us.  One young couple was attending their first ever foray into the swinging world while another couple was searching for a single female to stay with them for the rest of the night.

Matt took turns sweeping the ladies onto the dance floor as he is an excellent dancer.  Laura is, as well.  And while I have great rhythm, I have trouble with ballroom dancing.  I’m not good at following.

The party floors/rooms upstairs were again in full swing for the after party.  Strolling the floors were people in all phases of dressing/undressing.  Some were still dressed in party attire, some had changed into more casual clothing, and some had on lingerie or nothing at all.  I lost count of how many people I had some version of sex with.that weekend.  I know it was at least five women and five men, but I stopped counting.

We woke up on Sunday morning, the six of us, all in one room naked, intertwined from the previous night’s playtime.  I ached all over!  Whoever says that sex isn’t a real workout has never been to a party like this.  Soon enough it was time to pack up and head back home.  This was one of best New Year’s Eves I had had in a very long time.

Have a sexy day!

XoXo

Tracy

A Guide to Swinging Profiles and Emails - A Unicorn's Perspective

Since I am taking some time off from playing due to my daughter's upcoming wedding I thought I would just share a few things from my perspective or from my previous books.  I get asked all the time about what makes a good swinger profile or first email.  So....here's my list.  The good, the bad, the funny, and the absurd.  Hope you enjoy.

I am asked frequently what makes me respond positively to some emails/people and not others.  For me, it's a combination of things.  First of all, it's never JUST about the physical appearance.  I'm not denying that I have to find someone physically appealing in their pictures to even consider replying.  I typically will read an email first.  If I like the email, then I will look at their pictures.  If I like the pictures, I will then read their profile.  But I always do all three before I will reply.

Any or all of those things will have me considering a positive reply.  I try not to be an ass, and I do reply to most emails unless they send an obnoxious email, refuse to share their photos, or have a really bad profile.  I've tried to learn methods over the years to determine who is trying to hide things about who they are and what they want.  I don't always get it right, but through trial and error I have a pretty good sense about these things now.

I try to be open-minded about all people, but I do have a couple of standards that I try to stick with.  After some bad experiences, I usually only play with single, unattached men or women.  I love to play with couples, but I rarely play with only one person of the couple unless they are a couple I know well.  I typically keep my age range from 35-60, but that one does get crossed quite a bit, particularly on the low end.  Other than that, I'm open to meeting new people.  At house parties, events, or social gatherings, however, these standards do not really apply because the people I play with in those circumstances do not usually become steady friends or partners.

So what are the things I look for?  As for physical appearance, I am pretty open.  As long as I don't find a person completely physically unappealing, I am willing to at least move forward...maybe a bit hesitantly, but it's not a deal breaker.

But what about profiles and introductory emails?  These suggestions are for men, pretty much exclusively.  I rarely run into these issues with women or couples.  Guys, you know that the market is driven by supply and demand.  There is an overabundance of men on these sites.  You need to stand out...and not by being a dick.

Here are my suggestions in no particular order.  Maybe they only apply to me.  Hell, I'm no expert.  Just a chick who has read a lot of fucking emails and looked at a lot of fucking profiles over the years.

1.  Always post a face picture.  If you don't post a face picture then I think you have something to hide.  You may be married/attached.  You may be a troll.  Or the ever popular, "I'm in a sensitive job and don't want anyone knowing."  If I can post a face picture, so can you.  If someone you know recognizes you, guess what, THEY ARE ON THE SITE, TOO!  And if you don't post one on your profile, you better attach one to your first email.  You are not doing anything illegal or even immoral, so you must be hiding something.

2.  Do not use a picture of your dick as your primary/only photo.  I know you love him, and stroke him, and think he's the greatest.  He's your pride and joy.  Here's a clue - most women (even those as visual as I am) do not get turned on by seeing pictures of only your dick.  I want to see your face, your body, and maybe a picture of your dick, but that's a pretty low priority.  If you have a profile with 20 dick pictures and nothing else then I think you are incredibly insecure.  Oh, and THAT'S WHY YOU GET ALL THE EMAILS FROM THE GAY MEN!  Do not send unrequested dick pictures to someone you do not know.

3.  Post more than one picture.  Almost everyone can find one picture in which they look attractive.  Show who you really are.  If you are going to reach your objective of finally meeting, it's better to have at least a pretty good idea of what someone looks like so there are no surprises.  So post a few pictures.  Show pictures of you in multiple situations/locations with different expressions or different body parts highlighted.  Be fucking creative.  Close up, face pictures, full body pictures clothed and/or nude.

4.  Do not try to hide baldness with hats.  If you have a hat on in every picture, I'm going to assume you don't have hair.  Who cares?  I happen to love bald men.  I would even say it's a minor fetish with me. 

5.  Do not try to hide bad or missing teeth by not smiling.  We like to see your smile and your expressions.

6.  All pictures should be recent and actually look like you.  For example, two years ago I was extremely thin.  Due to a number of things (surgery, medication, inactivity) I gained a lot of weight.  When I went back to my profiles, I deleted all of my old pictures and replaced them with pictures that actually represent the way I look now.  I loved those old pictures.  They were fucking hot.  But they aren't who I am now, even though they are only two years old.

7.  Do not post pictures of you with your children.  I have a problem with this for a number of reasons.  First of all, as a parent I don't want pictures of my children floating around out there.  Second, once your children are grown, I don't know if that other person is your daughter, your girlfriend, your wife, your son.  Just don't do it.  If you want to share those privately after you have gotten to know someone, then go for it. 

8.  Do not post pictures of yourself with other women thinking that is going to make you look like a "catch" to other women.  It doesn't.  It looks pathetic.  Obviously this does not apply to couples or to pictures of sex play or group play.  I'm talking about those pictures of you with your hot female friend looking all lovey dovey when you present yourself as a single man.  It comes off as very desperate.

9.  Do not post a group picture as your only picture.  I would think this one would be common sense, but I see it a lot.  I have no idea which one is you, so I'm going to figure you are the least attractive one in the group.  It's fine to post group pictures, but not as your only picture.

10.  Complete the damn profile.  Yes, we read them, or at least I do.  I like to get a sense of who someone is...even if I only plan to have sex with them.  Talk about yourself.  What do you like?  Interests?  Hobbies?  Sexual preferences?  If you can, add some humor.  We like funny guys.  What are you looking for?  And be honest.  Don't fucking lie.  If I see a profile that has nothing or very little in it, I will not respond.

11.  Use correct grammar, spelling, and punctuation.  Intelligence is hot.  If you can turn on my brain you will get laid faster than the best looking guy who is as dumb as a door knob.  This goes for profiles and for emails.

12.  I know it's frustrating to send out tons of emails and get no responses.  I can't help that, and neither can you.  All you can do is try to distinguish yourself from the pack.  Don't send emails that say "Hey" or "Hi" with nothing else and expect a reply.  Do not just send your phone number and say "Text me".  Seriously, dude?  I mean, come on.  I probably get 25+ emails a day that just say "Hey", and they go straight to the trash.  Put some effort into it.  Again, humor is good.  Mentioning something that you read about me in my profile is also good because it tells me that you actually read it and didn't just look at the pictures.  Compliment me.  And that doesn't mean to send me an email that says "Hey, nice tits."  Give me a REASON to reply.  Yes, I'm a swinger.  Yes, I may be considered to be "promiscuous" by many.  But swinging in my world does not mean random one on one fucking with someone I do not know.

13.  Do not ever, ever tell a woman in an introductory email that she reminds you of your sister or mother.  Does this really need explanation?  It's stupid, it's weird, and it's just plain ick.  But I still get those emails.

14.  Do not ask a woman to suck your cock as your first sentence.  Or sit on your face. 

15.  Couples should post pictures as described above of both partners.

16.  Don't lie about your age.  That's just dumb and unnecessary.

17.  Be confident and assertive, but not an asshole.  I want to feel wanted and pursued to a certain intent...but not like a psycho stalker.  Once we have established an initial connection, make a move.  Ask me out with some specific dates in mind.  Don't just say "So when would you like to get together?"  Instead I would like to hear "I would love to have coffee with you on Friday evening.  Are you available?"  If not, I will suggest alternate dates, but please have the confidence and interest level to do some pursuing.

18.  My initial meets with men, women, or couples are almost always just coffee to see if we click on any/all levels.  Do not expect to have sex with me on the first meet.  Could it happen?  Yes.  But I don't like expectations or pressure.  This obviously does not apply to parties or events.

19.  Read my damn profile!  I tell exactly who I am and what I want.  It also says to attach a face picture.  If you do not, your email goes straight to the trash.

20.  Understand what you are looking for.  Everyone has their own definition of what swinging means to them.  In my world, cheating is not swinging.  In my world, just wanting to fuck a bunch of women randomly is not swinging.  There isn't really a right or wrong answer, just be as clear with yourself as you can be on what you are looking for, and then refer back to #19 before you email me.